This is a tough one. There are a few examples I can think of:
- You have a child
- You’re divorced
- You have certain sexual preferences
- You’re infertile
- You have a chronic illness
- You have an STD
All of these can be potential deal breakers for some people. You can either hide them and bring them out later after capturing their hearts, or you can own it from the beginning and control the conversation.
My advice: own it and take control.
The first thing is to come to terms with it yourself. Once you’ve accepted these things, others can too, and probably more easily and readily than you fear.
None of these things define you, you define these things. And you determine if these are the whole story or a part of the story.
I realize some of these things may be embarrassing, or perhaps you don’t want to put everything out there. That’s fine, there’s also no reason to scare someone off who may actually be fine with it once they’re outside of the window shopping environment of endless options that is online dating.
You can put each of these things in your profile if you choose, or wait until the 3rd date once you’ve decided whether or not you like this person enough to continue seeing them. Then, be honest and have the conversation.
Each of these is an opportunity to talk about how it has impacted you as a person, for the better. All of these teach you lessons, and all of these can be nothing more than footnotes in the story of you.
It’s your choice. But above all, accept yourself…because you’re beautiful.