This is a question that people rarely seem to ask but probably should. Far too many times I see couples that are either horribly matched and destined for a failed relationship, or people who are so passively and moderately interested in one another that “settling” would seem to be an upgrade.
Maybe it’s my nature as a strategist and planner, but I can’t understand why anyone would approach their love life with such haphazard disregard for what they want.
Out of ALL of the people we’ve coached, only a handful could tell us what they clearly wanted. Is it such a shock that people can’t find what they’re looking for when they don’t even know what they’re looking for?
As part of our standard curriculum, we start with a full persona building exercise so that our clients are keenly aware of what they are looking for. We teach this in our ebook/online course too.
Before you go out there, do yourself, and everyone else a favor. Sit down and start planning out what you are looking for. It’ll help. Take it from me.